I can safely say that last year was the most challenging year for me, thus far, and I came out emotionally broken. After I lost my grandfather in the summer, I also lost my father and a good friend with only a week in between each time. Looking back, it was a domino effect that made me angry, sad, empty and sometimes completely numb.
Finding an emotional balance is very different from finding a physical or mental balance. Human emotions, especially sadness, pain, depression and anxiety, have a tendency to arise unexpectedly and can turn into a vicious circle. The end of the tunnel can then become almost invisible.
This emotion, especially sadness, weighs differently for each person and can be experienced more strongly during certain periods. Whether it is a relationship that goes south, or the loss of a friend or loved one, the pain of failure or even homesickness, we have to understand that it is completely normal to feel such a thing.
How can you deal with your grief now?
1. Keep in mind there is a season for everything
Just like the seasons in nature, people go through seasons in their lives. Some last longer than others, so it seems, especially when we are dealing with the dark emotions. But just like in nature, there is always another spring, a moment where hope comes back to life.
Take a moment to think about the past 5 years. The changes you’ve gone through. Your highs and lows. Maybe one year stands out that was better than the others. See that one year, or those beautiful moments and events, as the light and good of life.
Trust that everything that is working against you right now will pass and there will be beautiful moments again. It is for your mental, physical, and spiritual growth that go through these kinds of periods of renewal.
2. Find your happiness
It is time to break away from the mere pursuit of outer happiness and take time to just embrace what you love and give your happiness on the inside some attention, to fit with your life values. Everyone deals with grief in different ways: fitness, drawing, dancing, spending time with friends or family, for example, can all be ways that help you.
Have compassion for yourself and discover what really makes you happy. Then feel free to treat yourself to it. Give yourself that time. It’s not an answer that’s the same for everyone and it doesn’t have to be. Discover the things that appeal to you and restore your mental, physical, and especially, emotional balance.
3. Contact others you have a click with
An environment that supports you is an enormous blessing, but it is possible that you will meet people who have a deeper, more personal connection with you.
Situations and circumstances of each person are different and although you may feel alone in the situation you are in, you can always meet people who are experiencing or have experienced something similar. Open yourself up to meet such people, to exchange thoughts and share feelings. Sometimes even without words.
Divorces take place for a variety of reasons, but the feeling of loss and disappointment for relationships persists. Homesickness can otherwise be described as the loss of a person you depend on. It may also be connected to a place, just as it is to a person.
Life is not meant to be done alone, but in the company of others.
4. Accept and show compassion
Compassion is not everyone’s innate skill, but it is something that everyone can learn. As humans, we need genuine compassion for each other, but also for animals and nature as a whole. Be kind, pay attention to your surroundings, and then you will see that things will happen by themselves.
There may be things in your life that you don’t fully understand until you have experienced them yourself, which is usually the case with traumatic events. Grief can be an overwhelming emotion, but you are not alone.
By showing compassion to another person, and seeing another person’s grief, you can experience a deeper connection with that person, even if you haven’t gone through the same pain. What you get in return is a wave of energy. What you give with a generous heart, you will always receive in return.