We all know the difference between positive and negative. Like black and white, good and bad, correct and incorrect. Therefore, it is very natural that we want such a positive life.
A positive life is something other than achieving a life goal or satisfying a need. If you want something specific, such as money, a job, or a relationship with a person, you can get it, but it can still be something you can’t control.
On the other hand, a positive life is something you can control and comes from within. You can live a positive life no matter where you are, who you are or what you do. In this article, I share 4 simple steps that can help you to let go of negativity and embrace a well-deserved portion of positivity.
1. Keep your habits under control.
Did you know that most of your actions are driven by your habits?
A small example to make it clear: It can be quite normal to feel tired in the morning, but you don’t have to get up grumpy. Even if you have told yourself that it is fine and ‘normal’, as you are not a morning person. It’s just something you tell yourself. Something that’s in your head.
Changing your habits takes time and is about changing your mind, step by step. But it’s a simple step. We can all knowingly think and change our minds.
By being aware of the habit of provoking negative thoughts, we can try to change them. By doing this, we get our thoughts under control and our perspective on life changes, as well. The alarm clock in the morning is just a small example of how your habits can determine your daily rhythm.
2. Memorize positive words
It sounds too easy to be true, but learning a list of positive words can force your brain to use them more often, making you more positive in life. It’s a way to reprogram your brain through your language use. The words you take in will come out, automatically.
Some psychologists have measured which words are experienced as positive and which as negative, but if you think about it for a moment, you can actually judge for yourself. It is not about learning new words, but about repeating words you already know.
The moment you start using more positive words, it changes your thinking and your habits. By doing this, you let the positivity grow a little bit, day by day.
3. Focus on what is important
Remember, there will always be positive and negative things going on in your life, but you can determine what influence they have on you. It’s true that we don’t have to worry about everything. What our classmates think about us or how our colleague talks about us, or even how many likes we get on social media, for example, doesn’t have to completely ruin our day.
In the end, you’ll never get everyone on your side and you’ll always get along better with one person than the other. Choose your people and choose how much influence people are allowed to have on your life. Focus on what gives you energy.
4. Learn to say no
Some people find it incredibly difficult to say no because they then miss an opportunity or feel like they are dissapoiting a person. If you look at the words ‘yes’ and ‘no’, most people experience ‘no’ as a negative word.
But saying no is important. This step is easier than you think, when you see it in connection with the previous one. Choose what you think is important and say ‘no’ to the things you’d rather not do. Then you don’t really say ‘no’ as much, compared to saying ‘yes’ to the things you do want or to the people you consider important. Every ‘yes’ to something or someone less important means a ‘no’ to something you wouldn’t have wanted to miss afterwards. So feel free to say, “no thanks”, to focus on what you find important!